Dating a RMP girl

[parkerjiscool]

I didn't date an RMP girl per se, though I had a legitimate date with one, if this is can offer any insight.

We met about a year ago at one of the popular RMPs on the east side. I'd read good reviews and she exceeded expectations as far as being my type. Bear in mind I delude myself that there's a "real" connection nearly every time I go to one of these places, but this time I truly believed it was genuine. A very comfortable, fun time, and of course I returned to see her not long after, and the vibe continued. By the third visit a month later we dispensed with the standard session and just lay on the table and talked. I felt bad that she gave me an HE, in fact, because it seemed to cheapen our time together (remember, I'm deluded). Before I left she gave me her cell number and e-mail address.

We started corresponding by e-mail and ultimately went to a movie together one night, followed by drinks. What I liked about her (other than the obvious) was that she was quite smart, not a party girl like some of the RMP girls I've met over the years, with a sly sense of humor. But she had her own drama going on, of course, be it money issues or trying to get her visa. She spoke about a former roommate, also an RMP girl, who ultimately moved in with a sugar daddy. I couldn't bring myself to ask her if that's what she was looking for with me, my ego couldn't bear the truth. She certainly never asked me for anything. We had, to my mind, a great night. The time at the bar post-movie was flirtatious and genuine, and we ended up on the street making out. I was thrilled, because this was someone I'd loved to have dated. But on the cab ride back to her apartment I got this sinking feeling that I had my one shot with her and I'd blown it somehow, which ultimately proved to be the case. Maybe it was the age difference? She was unpleasantly surprised to learn that I'm about 10 years older than she thought I was (that's the last time I'll reveal my true age). Maybe because I hadn't offered a financial reward? She was not the gold-digger type, but who knows. Needless to say I was extremely disappointed. In retrospect I wish I'd kept it to strictly visiting her at the RMP, as I'd still be seeing her that way today.

As fate would have it, I ran into her a number of times in the real world a few months later and we started e-mailing and texting again. I tried to get another date but it never happened. My sense is that in her culture, any offer she accepts has with it an unwritten expectation of reciprocation, and she didn't want to be beholden to anyone.

 

[Edgar M]

c'mon, theres got to be more people on this forum tht dated theses girls..

 

[mashapidarsha]

I don't think you need to be from a poor European country to feel out of place at a wine tasting party... =D

 

[roadrunner4wd]

Have you ever been to St. Petersburg (Russia not Florida)? You can't believe the hordes of gorgeous women there. It reminded me of the old MTV Robert Palmer video "Simply Irresistible" where he had all these incredible amazons bopping behind him during the song. Maybe it was a secret plan of Stalin's to infiltrate and seduce the West.

 

[bryanhughjr]

The fall of communism gave us an influx of all the many hot Eastern European women.

God only knows how those horrible hard faced squareheaded drunk Euro men created such goddesses.

 

[ClizenCortes]

I think the interest in Russian women really started here after the fall of the Soviet Union and the large influx of Russian immigrants gave us a glimpse at how hot Russian women are.

I dated a RMP girl for awhile--she worked at a couple places in the 30s near Madison that aren't around anymore or have moved/switched management, etc. She was a doll but there was a definite cultural divide--for instance, I brought her to a wine tasting party and she was completely lost. I think the stereotype of the gorgeous gold digger--the so-called "super Natashas"--isn't necessarily, or always, true: a lot of it stems from the cultural divide and the different expectations they have from relationships and dating. Growing up in the USSR or in the later era of the Russian mob also gives them a different slant that makes relationships for US men difficult.

 

[Sulfuric]

I was going to make a smug comment about expecting mostly babushkas, but I googled babushka and got pics like below. Aside from Bond and cold-war movie temptresses, Russian women were held in low regard in the US until the Kournikova / Sharapova era. We are lucky in NYC to be blessed with fashion, modeling, and media industries, and a parade of trophy wives/others and their many cheerful cousins.

 

[klztuynb]

On a marginally related note, I was invited to a Russian dinner/dancing event in NJ via a colleague. Drinking was excellent, food was meh and the music/dancing was painful to listen & watch. However the ladies were dressed to the nines and I would bet my savings there were at least 10 providers. Too much smoking with that crowd.

 

[askerthon1000]

yes and possibly.

 

[CalicoSky]

Aren't RMP's mostly HJ ?

Or maybe they just don't like me.

 

[biedtuwjickioyegn]

I know theres a 'Dating an Asian massage girl thread' so I figured we can hear some of the stories with RMP girls. Not sure if theres a big enough difference..?

What are your experiences with dating RMP girls? Ive read many of the horror Russian Bride stories but it cant all be that bad.... can it?