Fingering

[njss]

I am trying to figure out what exactly is appropriate or inappropriate during a session. Obviously if you have seen a girl for a while and get a long with her... she'll let you do more things with her.

But... generally is fingering a girl considered an "allowable" act? Or is it improper? I'm not talking about just touching her pussy... I'm talking about actually sticking your fingers in. Is this acceptable or not? For some reason I have no problem touching an MPA all over... but fingering her always seemed to be on the other side of a line that I wasn't sure I should cross.

Your thoughts...?

 

[Miss.Lucy]

I've had sessions where I was DATY and she still pulled back when I tried to massage her G spot. I don't get it. Is she thinking that she can get an STD from my finger? Is it a cleanliness issue? If so, isn't that what the shower is for? Perhaps, their is a greater chance of germs or something inside then when staying on the surface.

Either way, this seems to always be a big 'no no'. I just accept it and enjoy all the other good stuff I can do.

 

[Collette J]

Of course this is a personal issue for each woman to decide on her own terms. Would you allow her to jam her fingers up your butt? On second thought... that might be the wrong question to ask.

Seriously... have you guys ever had a girlfriend before? Wouldn't she kick your ass if you just shoved four fingers in? Yes... it's a personal issue. Yes... it could be a cleanliness issue. Yes... it could be any number of personal reasons. Yes... it's none of your business to know what those reasons are. Give her the dignity by asking politely or waiting for the obvious body language signs that would give you the necessary approval to continue in your Jacques Cousteau search for the g-spot.

 

[Joseph]

what about the mpa that allows full service, but do not allow you to finger her.....how do you justify that one.....not a personal issue....maybe she like bigger things in there.... hahahahahhaha

 

[frogysue]

Interesting point... but the difference is hopefully a condom and a lot more money.

 

[jammyngirl]

The SP's I've been with have allowed one finger as part of DATY,
probably because they were lying on their backs , more relaxed and well lubricated...

I've NEVER pushed this with an MPA, because the usual table position is difficult for digits ( 69 ) and the girls aren't as well lubricated...

Usually if the girl allows touching below the belt I'll slowly rub her with my thumb as she's sitting in a cowgirl position, but that's all external stimulation...

 

[Pompal 09.]

Holy Christ boys. Calloway has put it very well as far as im concerned. If she lets you slide your dick in her great, fine lucky you if thats what you want. If she doesnt like you to finger her then thats fine too. Dont question why or get all pissy because she doesnt. I mean what do you care? Last time i checked i didnt have any pleasure points in the tips of my fingers anyway.

mymymy to explain why a MPA may offer FS and not fingering? Well it doesnt matter why. She doesnt and thats it! I hate looking like a white knight but its just pretty plain and simple that its not really up to you to set what is acceptable and if its not why. To be honest anything above and beyond a massage should be taken as gravy!

 

[gaBed]

I will only finger a girl if they allow FS. Otherwise I will only pet the pussy and not got inside. ESPECIALLY if it is a place that you don't shower in first....cause that also means they probably don't shower. Unless the girl specifically asks for it I don't cross that line. But I go crazy on the titties!!

 

[Jeanmarie]

That's an intersting theory...

 

[Pompal 09.]

As usual, YMMV. I've had dancers at strip clubs who guided my hand to be fingered while rubbing Mr. Happy.

As for MPAs, I've had quite a few that allowed fingering, and a couple who genuinely seemed to enjoy it. Some would finger themselves firts, which I really like to watch. I guess the key was to go very slowly and gently, and to make sure that everything was very well lubricated. And obviously, asking first and respecting personal limits is a must.

 

[businessman95]

The key words Fritz appropriately used are "guided"... "allowed" and "respecting"

 

[Shawn M]

I was talking to a frequently reviewed MPA the other day about the reverse massage and her comment was.

"There's nothing worse then a five second rub of the back and then him trying to stick a finger up my ass"

I think that sums it up.

 

[karma is a bitch!!]

I have had the pleasure of fingering an MPA more than once and more than one MPA (but not at the same time). It depends on what she is comfortable with. After all, it IS a personal and private part of her body. Just keep it clean and don't do anything to hurt her if she allows it. One of my favourite MPAs wants me to wash/disinfect my hands when I want to pet her kitty, which is cool by me. It shows she takes great care of herself and increases my respect for her!

 

[Allen]

Reading an MPA's body-language is usually a good start as to how far she will allow you to go. Kissing her breasts or nibbling on her ear (yeah, I love doing that) are all within bounds for me. But fingering her is something I would not do without her permission. I have found that there are 3 types on MPA's when it comes to fingering:

(1.) The MPA who closes her leg's so tight that you know upfront that fingering is off-limits.
(2.) The MPA who spread her legs in the normal position meaning you may gently caress her.
(3.) The MPA who spread's her leg's wide open inviting you to dive in.

To test the water's, I usually gently glide my finger over her vulva and wait for her reaction. Usually I ask "Is this good enough ?". If the MPA does not want to be fingered, her usual comment would be something like "just gently over the top, please". If she doesn't mind to be fingered, I've gotten expressions like "You can go deeper". In any case, I respect the MPA's decision. As MojoRisin' said "anything above and beyond a massage should be taken as gravy!" If you keep pushing her, the MPA may become aggravated and the session could take a turn for the worse. Also how many finger's do you need to pleasure her ? One finger should do the trick, and if you use it creatively enough, rather than jamming your finger back and forth, the MPA's usually have a more postive reaction. I know because I have been complimented on a number of ocassion's. So the bottonline is to respect the MPA's decison. Sometimes mileage is not everything. Some of my best session's have included minimal mileage.

 

[Suz C]

the best is when you finger her and then stick your fingers in her mouth.....yumm

 

[SnuffySmith]

why not eliminate the fingers?

 

[smedrik]

Wait for an invitation. There's not much point if she "allows" it, but rather is perceived to "want" it, no ?

maybe, it's just me, but I prefer if the girl offers her own finger foods. ( the icing on da cake )

 

[samAnThA]

I think it's kinda gross if an MPA you've seen for the first time allows you to finger her. That means she allows it with EVERY guy and that's gross. One of things I enjoy about this whole massage experience is that it IS fairly restrictive and you can't do everything. If the girl allows you to do just about anything, then it cheapens the girl and she all of a sudden becomes an insta-slut.

If I want to go to a slut, then I'll pay just a tad more and go to a SP.

Just my opinion on this particular matter we are discussing.

 

[Yakuza]

Interesting opinion, fanter.

It doesn't necessarily mean the girl in question allows it with every guy. What percentage of guys would be "acceptable" before it is deemed to be "gross". How many sessions would be an acceptable number if indeed an MPA did allow said activity with every client ?

As long as the MPA in question showers between sessions, I don't see how it's gross. Now, the smell of the previous clients saliva - that would be gross !

It seems that there is a notion that "sexual contact" with multiple people somehow changes that person physically - it doesn't.

Being "hobbyists" who see multiple MPA's, I suppose that lessens our value ( cheapens us ) as people : ( Personally, I'd feel more empowered and a higher sense of self worth if they were paying me, no ?

That all being said, I do value surprise "acronyms" that aren't known to be readily possible, but what ya don't know won't hurt ya.

*steps down off white horse and goes back to playing with his demons*

 

[Colorado]

fanter....are you a rookie .....oh ya wacking off 15 to 20 guys a day isn't bad enough...common....fingering a girl dont make her a slut....and if a mpa was to tell you to finger her which is one in a million...what would you say...no sweetie if i do that makes you a "insta-slut"....

and as i see it you see nothing wrong with a mpa wacking off 15 -20 guys a day...would you let your girlfriend do it....hmmmmmmmmmm