Question Frequency with new talent, regulars and favorites

[UsefulIdiot]

Lucky me I have the flu, which has the effect of giving me a two digit IQ. So please be patient with me if I write something dumb. I wanted to hobby on Thursday this week, but that would be extremely selfish, putting the SW at risk. So with my compromised brain and not much going on, my mind has stumbled on a topic for discussion: SW frequency. It is on my mind because Emily at E-Spa told both me and @xtc27 that it is important to see different SWs in order to keep the little guy motivated. Here goes.

I have a favorite, she is actually the best I have ever had. From her I get a really good mix of intimacy and great sex. I really love the sex part and I really like cuddling with her for about 20 minutes after. No lie, I really do like her as a person, even though she is less than half my age. I saw her once a week for five weeks. She then ghosted me for a couple of weeks and when I saw her again the session was pretty amazing. I think she likes me as a regular customer, but too much of anything, or getting too close, can get uncomfortable and not as much fun. There are favorites, regulars and new talent. For the more experienced hobbyists what do you think a good rotation/frequency is? For example, hobbying once a week for four weeks: favorite, new talent, favorite, other regular. Or favorite, new talent, one regular, another regular. Or maybe a six week cycle of some kind would be more appropriate. Your thoughts please. Based on the feedback I might create a poll (or someone else can).

 

[GuiGui]

Currently, I don't have any rotation/frequency pattern in place. But I think you have given a good pattern to try. I might give this a try.

Hobbying once a week for four weeks: favorite, new talent, favorite, other regular.

This seems like a good rotation.

 

[lasslicker]

Only playing once/week is rather limiting in itself.
You're on the right track with rotation keeping interest up.

I always enjoy the hunt for new talent and likely see one new provider every 6 to 10 encounters.

As I seldom plan beyond same day encounters, availability and scheduling and location will fill in the other list of fave(s) and regulars.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

For the math nerds out there another approach would be to use a random number generator with one possible outcome being new talent, one being a regular, and two being a favorite. And yes, this is a shameless bump, I would like to know what you guys think about how to mix things up between favorites, regulars and new talent, to get the most out of our hobbying experiences.

 

[Petron-us]

I like to see my regular favorite girl one every two or three wks, mix in another regular once a month, then try a totally new girl but I need a solid backup when I try the new girl, and my backup might be a favourite, which can mess up the rotation a bit If I have to run away from the new girl.

I also like to make sure I see a girl who is good at bjs at least once every few weeks, and I also visit lower mileage places for a nice handjob with a naked girl.

Then I can mess up the rotation quite a bit by waking up horny and just going with who is available.

 

[imyourpuppet]

I get why some would have a regular or a go to girl but my philosophy has almost always been to see a variety of girls so as to avoid any risk of crossing boundaries. However, I have seen Helena @ Premier/Elevate on a semi regular basis the past 18 months - perhaps half a dozen visits.

 

[Dogmgo]

Twice a week for me nowadays and its usually been

Regular
New girl
new girl
agency girl (new)
Regular
New girl
New girl
Agency girl either new or repeat

 

[PreGen]

I usually do two sessions weekly with a couple of long term regulars. They give me all I need and more.

Every other week i'll add a third session to try something new or see a semi-regular(once monthly).

Constantly looking for new faces just isn't my thing. Prefer the long term intimacy.

 

[kittyhound69]

Regulars are like girlfriends. Once they get the upper hand your fxed. So mix it up. Keep them wanting. Like sex you have to vary your strokes.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

So far it seems a lot of guys have regulars but not many have standout favorites.

 

[PreGen]

One if my two weekly regulars is a standout favourite - seen her for years.

 

[Darke Steele]

I have a regular that I see once a week and 8-10 favs on rotation for her period week and variety. I run on a 2x weekly rate sometimes 3 if I throw in a massage only session. But, I also travel a lot for work outside the country mostly.

 

[Deleted member 101953]

She then ghosted me for a couple of weeks

After you two had your fun, did you ask her why she ghosted you? I'm getting stuck up bitch vibes..

 

[UsefulIdiot]

After you two had your fun, did you ask her why she ghosted you? I'm getting stuck up bitch vibes..

I still do not fully understand, but me and her are good now. It might have been a case of her getting closer to a client than she is comfortable with being. I think a little distance and me seeing other SWs helped put our “in spa love” in the right place. I am married, she is half my age. But I think, with caveats and mutual respect, she will be a favorite/friend for some time.

 

[Brewsky]

I had a great regular, she would even give me extras for 'no additional fees' (only pay room fee). When she was free and I was free, instead of a session she would just take a break and we'd smoke some weed in my car.

"Too much of a good thing" well that happened. I would see her probably 3x a week. Then one day, during sex, I was good for the first 10 minutes but then I got limp. I just wasn't excited and said we don't have to finish, let's just cuddle. I wondered if I needed Viagra or something and got nervous, but then I thought maybe I'm tired of the same girl.

Well I went and booked with a brand new girl, and we banged for a good 50 minutes straight in every position, was hard throughout. I was happy that it wasn't ED, but then thought to myself "how do married men do it? How do you live the rest of your life until you die with only sticking your dick in the exact same pussy, the same girl, over and over"

"oh well me and the wife spice if it up by" no! Spicing it up is not enough for me! Sometimes I want a spinner that I can throw around, sometimes I want a bubble butt, sometimes I want a girl with abs and B-cups, then I want a girl with some meat and double D's!

Conclusion: I don't schedule it with my brain, I let my dick decide when it's time to see a girl and if I'm in the mood for the same dinner I had last week that tasted great, or if I'm adventurous and want new cuisine.

 

[Petron-us]

Twice a week for me nowadays and its usually been

Regular
New girl
new girl
agency girl (new)
Regular
New girl
New girl
Agency girl either new or repeat

Whether this is the right schedule for me or not, I do agree that having a schedule is good, or you end up wasting time trying to decide who you are going to see.

The best time is soon after your previous encounter, when sex is on your mind but not distracting it.

I feel its more like

Regular 1
Regular 2
New girl
Regular 3
Repeat girl not reg yet
New girl
.& repeat

And since my regs are my backup plan with a new girl, the order can get mixed up a bit…