Chat New Looking for first encounter - Concerned about Age Gap

[Newbie234]

Hello, how are you all doing? I just recently discovered this massage world one year after breaking up with my last GF of three years. I apologize for any gaps in my knowledge as I'm still learning about all this. I was looking around on the internet to get a legit massage on a friend's recommendation, but then I came across a subreddit dealing with HE massages and eventually this. I'm honestly very confused if I should be getting into this at such a young age, but I've been feeling extremely needy and wanting to get these urges out of my system. I'm currently studying well on track to a graduate program and I have a running business which is making decent money for both my tuition and necessary living expenses so I can spare a little bit maybe once this month to try this out. I'm not a virgin, but I've only ever had two long-term relationships with people which both ended horribly on account of their actions so I'm hesitant to date anymore for a while. My last GF was my best friend of two years before we got together and I believed I knew her so well that I was fooled into believing she was the one as childish as that sounds. I'm 20 y/o Indian in case you're interested to know and I was considering hiring an escort, but I don't fully know if I'd be comfortable going all the way after so long or if I would just want to do everything except vag. sex. That's why this massage world seems so perfect for my situation as it's cheaper and I can get fewer services limited to what I need.

Although I'm concerned about the legality surrounding this, I don't think I'll regret trying this out, since at this moment I don't want to look for anything serious or date for a while. I just want to meet my emotional needs which I understand sounds selfish, and I apologize for that. For now, I believe I'd be more comfortable going to an independent provider for my first encounter since massage parlours feel so naked to me like I'd be getting seen by everybody. Maybe I'm wrong to feel that way, but I also think I'd rather accomplish my needs with a mature older person than those as young at these parlours as it would just feel more reassuring and easier to be understood. However, I may be wrong about that as I haven't had the chance to read up on too many parlour reviews yet. I also feel I'd just want to limit myself to a HJ or maybe a BJ if I do decide to visit one of the places or independent providers mentioned on this place. Since I'm not looking for FS, this feels perfect to me as a way to meet my needs and a slow step back into intimacy.

I'm just worried about first contact, considering the age gaps as everyone on here is much older than me and so are these independent providers that I'm interested in from what I've read. I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable if they're not used to dealing with clients as young as me. I'm a bit short and average-looking as well so it's not like I have anything to really compensate in terms of looks for my lack of experience. Don't get me wrong though, my looks never really bother me anymore as I truly do love myself, work hard to be presentable, and I believe I'm a personable guy with fun hobbies and interests. I just don't exactly know what these independent providers would think of me.

Apologies if this has been weird or too heavy. I ended up writing quite a lot. I'd appreciate any response or details from you on how I should navigate this massage world safely and any recommendations for providers that may be a good first encounter for me. I would also love to hear about some of you got into this massage world and how your first encounters went. I'm wondering about the legality of all this as well, and how I should contact anyone I want to meet so I limit my risks as much as I can. I'm considering using a text app called TextNow, but I heard some providers don't like text apps.

I am highly considering Original Sunny or Indian Emma as they are extremely well respected on here, although I still have yet to contact them so I don't know if they can provide what I'm looking for in HE. I may look for someone else instead, but I am extremely intrigued by the bodyslide I'd read about so I definitely think I'll give Sunny a shot. Again, I may only do this once this month and never again, or do this every 1-3 months if I feel the need to.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you have a pleasant day.

 

[Randomrd]

A) Don’t worry about your age. In fact they’ll probably get a kick out of seeing someone so young

B) I would dip my toe in slowly and work your way up. That was you don’t get overwhelmed and sour yourself on the experience. So look for a simple he place like Xio Ping. See how you like it. Then go for someone with a heavy tease reputation (which I like). Then you can go more intense like a body slide master. If that still doesn’t scratch that itch. Find a full service parlour. If that doesn’t even got you what you need go with an escort.

Learn as you go. Don’t paralyze yourself diving into the deepend. Maybe you’ll like the shallow end

 

[luvsluvsmassage]

don't overthink it.
don't go straight to a bodyslide. get comfortable with the standard process of a massage into a HJ. the good ones on here have their routine and its a good one for a reason. just lay down and enjoy it. they will take the lead.
don't worry about age. they've seen it all. they love older men, they usually behave much better.
Sunny will give you the same service everyone gets. Go see Sunny. Emma is great too. See her after.

 

[Mebad23]

My caution is to go into it for the reasons you described, just do not let it be a substitute for a real relationship. I say this because of how young you are. Some of us are single . Some not ,Some I am sure prefer what we do Some have no choice. This can become consuming so please gage it accordingly and good luck.

 

[Rubmegood]

Also keep in mind this hobby can be addictive- and costly! You will read on this forum about guys who go for massages two or three times a week. All very fine if you have the budget for it. But that's the key word- budget. If you can't feed, clothe provide shelter for yourself, you can't afford this hobby. And don't start going into debt for it either!

 

[Newbie234]

A) Don’t worry about your age. In fact they’ll probably get a kick out of seeing someone so young

B) I would dip my toe in slowly and work your way up. That was you don’t get overwhelmed and sour yourself on the experience. So look for a simple he place like Xio Ping. See how you like it. Then go for someone with a heavy tease reputation (which I like). Then you can go more intense like a body slide master. If that still doesn’t scratch that itch. Find a full service parlour. If that doesn’t even got you what you need go with an escort.

Learn as you go. Don’t paralyze yourself diving into the deepend. Maybe you’ll like the shallow end

Haha, I hope so. Appreciate your advice, and I'll give it a try even though I'm still a bit nervous going to a public place like Xiaoping. I'll look for reviews on this forum before deciding who to see, but do you have anyone specific in mind that would be a perfect first encounter for me there? Also is it safe for me to book with them using my real phone number?

 

[Newbie234]

don't overthink it.
don't go straight to a bodyslide. get comfortable with the standard process of a massage into a HJ. the good ones on here have their routine and its a good one for a reason. just lay down and enjoy it. they will take the lead.
don't worry about age. they've seen it all. they love older men, they usually behave much better.
Sunny will give you the same service everyone gets. Go see Sunny. Emma is great too. See her after.

Thanks so much for the advice. For now, I'll take yours and another person's advice to first test the waters before I see Sunny or Emma if I'm still inclined to.

 

[Newbie234]

My caution is to go into it for the reasons you described, just do not let it be a substitute for a real relationship. I say this because of how young you are. Some of us are single . Some not ,Some I am sure prefer what we do Some have no choice. This can become consuming so please gage it accordingly and good luck.

Also keep in mind this hobby can be addictive- and costly! You will read on this forum about guys who go for massages two or three times a week. All very fine if you have the budget for it. But that's the key word- budget. If you can't feed, clothe provide shelter for yourself, you can't afford this hobby. And don't start going into debt for it either!

Appreciate you both looking out for me. I'm well aware of the dangers of becoming too dependent and enthralled in this hobby. I pay my own expenses, tuition, and rent, so I am extremely wary about how I budget so I can live comfortably while I study. I definitely don't plan to do this more than once a month if needed.

 

[semi4life]

Hello, how are you all doing? I just recently discovered this massage world one year after breaking up with my last GF of three years. I apologize for any gaps in my knowledge as I'm still learning about all this. I was looking around on the internet to get a legit massage on a friend's recommendation, but then I came across a subreddit dealing with HE massages and eventually this. I'm honestly very confused if I should be getting into this at such a young age, but I've been feeling extremely needy and wanting to get these urges out of my system. I'm currently studying well on track to a graduate program and I have a running business which is making decent money for both my tuition and necessary living expenses so I can spare a little bit maybe once this month to try this out. I'm not a virgin, but I've only ever had two long-term relationships with people which both ended horribly on account of their actions so I'm hesitant to date anymore for a while. My last GF was my best friend of two years before we got together and I believed I knew her so well that I was fooled into believing she was the one as childish as that sounds. I'm 20 y/o Indian in case you're interested to know and I was considering hiring an escort, but I don't fully know if I'd be comfortable going all the way after so long or if I would just want to do everything except vag. sex. That's why this massage world seems so perfect for my situation as it's cheaper and I can get fewer services limited to what I need.

Although I'm concerned about the legality surrounding this, I don't think I'll regret trying this out, since at this moment I don't want to look for anything serious or date for a while. I just want to meet my emotional needs which I understand sounds selfish, and I apologize for that. For now, I believe I'd be more comfortable going to an independent provider for my first encounter since massage parlours feel so naked to me like I'd be getting seen by everybody. Maybe I'm wrong to feel that way, but I also think I'd rather accomplish my needs with a mature older person than those as young at these parlours as it would just feel more reassuring and easier to be understood. However, I may be wrong about that as I haven't had the chance to read up on too many parlour reviews yet. I also feel I'd just want to limit myself to a HJ or maybe a BJ if I do decide to visit one of the places or independent providers mentioned on this place. Since I'm not looking for FS, this feels perfect to me as a way to meet my needs and a slow step back into intimacy.

I'm just worried about first contact, considering the age gaps as everyone on here is much older than me and so are these independent providers that I'm interested in from what I've read. I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable if they're not used to dealing with clients as young as me. I'm a bit short and average-looking as well so it's not like I have anything to really compensate in terms of looks for my lack of experience. Don't get me wrong though, my looks never really bother me anymore as I truly do love myself, work hard to be presentable, and I believe I'm a personable guy with fun hobbies and interests. I just don't exactly know what these independent providers would think of me.

Apologies if this has been weird or too heavy. I ended up writing quite a lot. I'd appreciate any response or details from you on how I should navigate this massage world safely and any recommendations for providers that may be a good first encounter for me. I would also love to hear about some of you got into this massage world and how your first encounters went. I'm wondering about the legality of all this as well, and how I should contact anyone I want to meet so I limit my risks as much as I can. I'm considering using a text app called TextNow, but I heard some providers don't like text apps.

I am highly considering Original Sunny or Indian Emma as they are extremely well respected on here, although I still have yet to contact them so I don't know if they can provide what I'm looking for in HE. I may look for someone else instead, but I am extremely intrigued by the bodyslide I'd read about so I definitely think I'll give Sunny a shot. Again, I may only do this once this month and never again, or do this every 1-3 months if I feel the need to.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you have a pleasant day.

As others have said, don't overthink it. My recommendation is to just do a walk-in at a low service place like E&M or JR and let the girl do her thing. For a first experience you probably can't go wrong. Expect $60/hr room fee and $40-50 tip (for touching/topless etc. you might want another $20, but not necessary if you keep your hands to yourself)

Don't forget that this can become addictive and may make your next relationship not as exciting

 

[Old Fart]

1. Stop apologizing for your 'lack of knowledge'. We all have to start somewhere. Some on this board are helpful and others think they own the board and tell you to search. Ignore those pricks. One old clown even has a thread he created and keeps bumping up every time a new person asks questions. Ignore him. WE all learn in different ways.
2. Stop apologizing for how you feel and what you want. Knowing what you wand/need puts you ahead of most people.
3. If you get into this, do not use funds earmarked for tuition and living expenses.
4. Nothing wrong with your line of thinking bur just be aware that this can be addicting (so go back and read #3 again).
5. Stop worrying about age. You will be in the room for an hour (if you choose an hour long session) so what matters is if you enjoy that hour. You are not marrying her so who cares about age. Even if you were marrying, age to me is not as important as most people like to think it is. Compatibility is the important thing. If you need a massage and a 20-year-old gives a crappy massage and the 50-year-old give a great massage, guess which one you should see. Looks might send you to the 20-year-old so now you have to decide if looks or massage are most important to you but age is just a number and both can give a good massage and both can look good.

Good luck with your education ! Keep at it and then you can expand your business and go for as many massages a/o escorts as you want. People do not need to know how often you can afford to go. Some jealous asshole will want to tell you that you cannot afford to go (most likely THEIR situation). They do not need to know different. As a good friend always tells me, let fools think what they think while you know what you know.

Just one caution (again, pertaining to point #3), do not go into debt from this.

 

[Albertaman]

My advice, stay out of this hobby for now, save your funds, invest aggressively while young, pursue women you meet in daily living. You will have plenty of time in your 40s and beyond


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[wasskiwabit]

My advice, stay out of this hobby for now, save your funds, invest aggressively while young, pursue women you meet in daily living. You will have plenty of time in your 40s and beyond


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I second Albertaman’s advice.Remember this is just my experience and opinion. I was, like you, curious about the MP’s, Escorts and at the time Streetwalkers (1980’s), but too scared to dip my toe (or other parts) into this world. That fear served me well.

I was in my late 30’s when I started down this road. It started at once a month as “budget” could handle. Back then it was $120 for a rub & tug at a non legit MP. That was 30 years ago.

Early on my drive was much higher and I easily could have been a 3 times a week guy if got away from me. Now at a lower drive and more comfortable financial situation it is easier to partake without fear of it getting away from me, and seeing much younger ( but still mature ladies) make me feel 30 again.
Tread carefully young Skywalker and may the Force be with you.

 

[Tkamiya17]

I started several years ago at 25, it’s thrilling having this secret double life. It’s like being Batman, except the only thing getting beat is this meat.

 

[Newbie234]

As others have said, don't overthink it. My recommendation is to just do a walk-in at a low service place like E&M or JR and let the girl do her thing. For a first experience you probably can't go wrong. Expect $60/hr room fee and $40-50 tip (for touching/topless etc. you might want another $20, but not necessary if you keep your hands to yourself)

Don't forget that this can become addictive and may make your next relationship not as exciting

Thanks for the advice. I'm definitely giving heavy thought to this before I go for my first encounter, and I think as someone suggested, I'll start off with a simple sensual massage to see if that's enough to get it out of my system and get me kicked back into the normal dating world before I become addicted. I'll only use the few hundred I've set aside for hobbies (at most, one encounter per month) and never anymore. For now, I just feel like I want nothing to do with serious relationships for a while after my first two have failed, but I want to feel the touch of a woman.

 

[Newbie234]

1. Stop apologizing for your 'lack of knowledge'. We all have to start somewhere. Some on this board are helpful and others think they own the board and tell you to search. Ignore those pricks. One old clown even has a thread he created and keeps bumping up every time a new person asks questions. Ignore him. WE all learn in different ways.
2. Stop apologizing for how you feel and what you want. Knowing what you wand/need puts you ahead of most people.
3. If you get into this, do not use funds earmarked for tuition and living expenses.
4. Nothing wrong with your line of thinking bur just be aware that this can be addicting (so go back and read #3 again).
5. Stop worrying about age. You will be in the room for an hour (if you choose an hour long session) so what matters is if you enjoy that hour. You are not marrying her so who cares about age. Even if you were marrying, age to me is not as important as most people like to think it is. Compatibility is the important thing. If you need a massage and a 20-year-old gives a crappy massage and the 50-year-old give a great massage, guess which one you should see. Looks might send you to the 20-year-old so now you have to decide if looks or massage are most important to you but age is just a number and both can give a good massage and both can look good.

Good luck with your education ! Keep at it and then you can expand your business and go for as many massages a/o escorts as you want. People do not need to know how often you can afford to go. Some jealous asshole will want to tell you that you cannot afford to go (most likely THEIR situation). They do not need to know different. As a good friend always tells me, let fools think what they think while you know what you know.

Just one caution (again, pertaining to point #3), do not go into debt from this.

Appreciate all the advice, and I agree, I'm only going to use the few hundred I've set aside for hobbies (at most, one encounter per month ) and never anymore. All my funds earmarked for tuition and living expenses will be kept separate. As someone suggested, I'll start off with a simple sensual massage to see if that's enough to get it out of my system and get me kicked back into the normal dating world before I become addicted. Also point #5 is exactly why I was first leaning towards an older independent provider, since I feel the massage would be most important and it'd be easier to be understood and cared for. Someone suggested Xiaoping, but I'm still not sure where I should try first.

 

[Newbie234]

I second Albertaman’s advice.Remember this is just my experience and opinion. I was, like you, curious about the MP’s, Escorts and at the time Streetwalkers (1980’s), but too scared to dip my toe (or other parts) into this world. That fear served me well.

I was in my late 30’s when I started down this road. It started at once a month as “budget” could handle. Back then it was $120 for a rub & tug at a non legit MP. That was 30 years ago.

Early on my drive was much higher and I easily could have been a 3 times a week guy if got away from me. Now at a lower drive and more comfortable financial situation it is easier to partake without fear of it getting away from me, and seeing much younger ( but still mature ladies) make me feel 30 again.
Tread carefully young Skywalker and may the Force be with you.

Streetwalkers sound scary, haha. I can agree that it's risky for me to start taking part in this so young, and that's why I'm so grateful for everyone's feedback on here. I do feel I have a proper plan set out for my funds and the self-control required. I'll most likely still try a normal sensual massage first, since at this moment, I just want to get all these urges out of my system which I've become hyper-fixated on over the past year after my break-up. All I can think about is how I haven't been touched in so long, and I feel like trying this out once could be what I need to do to take care of my needs and possibly kickstart me back into the dating world which I've been avoiding for a while since I've grown to become distrustful after my past two relationships. I know this is no substitute for a real relationship, but for now, I want to avoid them altogether and still take care of myself. This feels the best way I can to get rid of all the distraction I'm experiencing.

 

[Mebad23]

Absolutely avoid the street level. Nothing of yours should ever come in contact with anything of theirs. Many or most are likely addicts . Do not even have one in your vehicle they may have lice or skin conditions. Im not trying to make them sound like feral animals. They are in really bad shape and are desperately trying to stay high. Years ago there were decent looking street walkers in the downtown area. Those days are gone. Do avoid anyone offering sex without condom. These people do not give a shit about their health and surely do not care about yours. I wish you all the best .

 

[Old Fart]

Appreciate all the advice, and I agree, I'm only going to use the few hundred I've set aside for hobbies (at most, one encounter per month ) and never anymore. All my funds earmarked for tuition and living expenses will be kept separate. As someone suggested, I'll start off with a simple sensual massage to see if that's enough to get it out of my system and get me kicked back into the normal dating world before I become addicted. Also point #5 is exactly why I was first leaning towards an older independent provider, since I feel the massage would be most important and it'd be easier to be understood and cared for. Someone suggested Xiaoping, but I'm still not sure where I should try first.

Rather than Xiaoping I would suggest Good Energy, in particular Lara. She is a good person and will not rip you off. I also went to nearby Rosewater and Jesse is a good therapist. These two places are close to each other.

 

[Albertaman]

As mentioned before, every dollar invested early in life provides freedom later on. You don't need to have an inheritance or a trust fund. An ordinary job and ordinary income is fine. But the key is to invest a small percentage (10% is fine) every month starting when you are young. Invest in buying stocks of the best managed publicly traded companies. By the time you are in your 40's your career will be a hobby.. you will have the freedom to do what you want.. that includes enjoying your work and pleasure hobbies. Don't waste your funds early in life.


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[Rubmegood]

Wise words from a (relatively) young man (coming from a not-so-wise man!)! My wife and I were always frugal with our money and she was able to be a "stay-at-home-mom" to raise our kids. We were lucky enough to receive a small inheritance in our 40's ($50,000) which kicked off our investment portfolio. We were able to retire early and not have any worries about money.