Signs of addiction to this hobby

[Flatulent Fox]

What are you signs that you are addicted to this hobby and it may be time to get help or retire:

Checking this site a few times a day
Checking mpa sites schedule more than twice a day
Planning your weekly schedule around who you want to fuck at the spa
Going to the spa on holidays

When you see 4 regulars on rotation..
When your leaving the spa and right after a session your checking the schedule
When booking a appt receptionist knows your voice
When you plan your weekend and to dos around your schedule
When you dont have a spending budget
When you're on here more 2x per day

Yeah yeah ,..I need help !!!

Damn, pretty much all of the above for me! Some uncomfortable truths here.

usually when people start out with this hobby, it begins as a gift to oneself - eg) promotion at work etc. then you start doing it out of boredom, and the gaps between visits shorten, from months, to weeks, to days, to when you get to the point where as soon as you finish an appointment with 1 regular, you already see when your free to see another regular.

Yup. First time for me was in Macau after winning big at the casino. Second time was here 2 months later after hurting my neck, looking for legit massage, and discovering this world. Then it was exactly as you described.

 

[xtc27]

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I've been fucking it like a rabbit since then and now only go to the spas once a week, I'm trying. The best thing about the pipedream is that it feels so real as I fuck it watching VR porn on my playstation VR, it's fucktastic! I highly recomend it as you can save a lot of money!

Woulda really worked for me once upon a time.

Spa girls WAY too much more exciting for me.

 

[Boston Man Chowder]

I agree with that. the woman I’ve been seeing The last 3 months has slip slidd away so to speak. In fact, my senses tell me she may be tired of seeing me But the fact I pay her well over the norm, you would think she wouldnt want to lose that income. Either she is really just bored and tired of me now or she’s trying to screw with my emotions. Maybe both!! Ha ha. Dam that golden pussy! i Think it best to see others and get a better perception of services. Any thoughts on spas?

Once you become someone's regular, obviously she becomes a little too comfortable with you and views your sessions together as easy money. Yes they do get complacent but I don't think it's always the case where they mean to be. It's just that the familiarity is there so she may have let her guard down. Just remind her of what you want or she can kiss that income goodbye and possibly lose it to her peers.

Based on your posts, it may seem like you and I go to different joints. I've been to the "mainstream" places so to speak like SRM, Allure, Premier and Flirt.

 

[Boston Man Chowder]

which flirt did you go to?

Thanks brother! I've been to both Flirts (Finch and Victoria Park).

 

[OG_funguy]

Once you become someone's regular, obviously she become a little too comfortable with you and views your sessions together as easy money. Yes they do get complacent but I don't think it's always the case where they mean to be. It's just that the familiarity is there so she may have let her guard down. Just remind her of what you want or she can kiss that income goodbye and possibly lose it to her peers.

Based on your posts, it may seem like you and I go to different joints. I've been to the "mainstream" places so to speak like SRM, Allure, Premier and Flirt.

They can definitely get "complacent" after a while. But I don't think they necessarily do it on purpose. With one of my faves, it got to a point where I don't even think I got a massage anymore LOL. But like you said, just give them a nice, subtle reminder and all will be good again.

 

[Boston Man Chowder]

They can definitely get "complacent" after a while. But I don't think they necessarily do it on purpose. With one of my faves, it got to a point where I don't even think I got a massage anymore LOL. But like you said, just give them a nice, subtle reminder and all will be good again.

Yes I don't think it's necessarily always the case where they purposefully slack off. Sometimes, they've just gotten so comfortable that being with some regular is like a break for them. They'd rather kick back with a client they don't feel uneasy with and whose company they genuinely enjoy despite not being attracted to him. So remind her if you want a back/foot massage or whatever it is you want from her. She may really be having a decent time at work after all and is just getting carried away.

 

[OG_funguy]

so you still see your favorite - That's great!!I hope that's the case with me too! as I don't want to lose this one!! - have you ever got into an argument or anything like that because that's almost where it got to with her and I?
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Yes, I still see her but not as much as before. Once she came back from China she switched to another spa which is quite far away. Every now and then, I see her outside the spa as well. We never really got in an argument before (I guess we're not close enough to fight yet LOL). We almost went our separate ways once but we reconciled and I'm glad we did.

 

[Hangdai]

. We never really got in an argument before (I guess we're not close enough to fight yet LOL).

Excellent point that rings of truth. Getting close always brings up jealously and trust issues.

My recent ending with my legit fav was such an example, should of been content with the free weekly fuck and left it at that.

She once told me there were no “others” in relation to other guys having sex with her.

I had always assumed she had “others” and I was fine with it. I guess she was really try to reel me in, so to speak.

But what she really meant to say was “there are no others , the rest of that day”, lol

You take the good with the eventual bad that comes with playing the game with a sex worker.

 

[Boston Man Chowder]

Thanks for the advice here - I think the right thing for me is to slow down and try again with her down the road as the first few months it was every week.
I'm going to try that Flirt spa soon and report back. Thank you

I know VP is closer to you but Finch has more options. Just read the Flirt Spa Tier List thread where we all chime in about the ladies we've seen. If you want to review someone, please take one for the team. Preferably someone who hasn't been talked about often. Thanks.

 

[OG_funguy]

Thanks for the advice here - I think the right thing for me is to slow down and try again with her down the road as the first few months it was every week.
I'm going to try that Flirt spa soon and report back. Thank you

Hey, glad to see you're branching out and trying new experiences. You can always go back to your fave later on.

 

[OG_funguy]

Excellent point that rings of truth. Getting close always brings up jealously and trust issues.

My recent ending with my legit fav was such an example, should of been content with the free weekly fuck and left it at that.

She once told me there were no “others” in relation to other guys having sex with her.

I had always assumed she had “others” and I was fine with it. I guess she was really try to reel me in, so to speak.

But what she really meant to say was “there are no others , the rest of that day”, lol

You take the good with the eventual bad that comes with playing the game with a sex worker.

With my original honey, I was quite jealous, especially if I came for a session and she was still busy with another customer. Fuck, that was hard to wait through, LOL. Time heals everything. These days those kinds of thoughts rarely even enter my mind.

 

[newtothis82]

Excellent point that rings of truth. Getting close always brings up jealously and trust issues.

My recent ending with my legit fav was such an example, should of been content with the free weekly fuck and left it at that.

She once told me there were no “others” in relation to other guys having sex with her.

I had always assumed she had “others” and I was fine with it. I guess she was really try to reel me in, so to speak.

But what she really meant to say was “there are no others , the rest of that day”, lol

You take the good with the eventual bad that comes with playing the game with a sex worker.

You must have been the last client of the day lol

 

[Happyman]

You are a hobbyist, when you find MPAs talking their personal matters to you. Sometime ago, a MPA asked my advice when she was thinking to open a spa. Recently, some MPA talked to me about their career/job search.

 

[Pay2Play]

Everyone here seems to be suffering from “I’m da man” syndrome. It’s inevitable. You give money and they give attention.

If you really want to hit a low, keep surrounding yourself with this lifestyle into your golden years.

 

[krayjee]

Excellent point that rings of truth. Getting close always brings up jealously and trust issues.

My recent ending with my legit fav was such an example, should of been content with the free weekly fuck and left it at that.

She once told me there were no “others” in relation to other guys having sex with her.

I had always assumed she had “others” and I was fine with it. I guess she was really try to reel me in, so to speak.

But what she really meant to say was “there are no others , the rest of that day”, lol

You take the good with the eventual bad that comes with playing the game with a sex worker.

Just happened to read this. You are so naive Hangdai.. You should have been able to read that easily from day one.

 

[qinging]

Yep...had MPAs want to get more personal...ie giving unrequested phone numbers...suggesting lunch...time to never see them again......Ruby one of them...WOW....what a surprise.....only one thing interests them and it's not between your legs....maybe in your back pocket

 

[qinging]

I treat the hobby almost...only almost.. like quitting smoking....with smoking I was either all in or all out....I made it to all out....the hobby was 5-6 times a month or once a month...hanging pretty close to once.....$$$ saved WOW.

 

[Melting_Point23]

It's only been less than a year for me. I go once a month but there were times it felt forever for the next month to come.

 

[Hangdai]

Just happened to read this. You are so naive Hangdai.. You should have been able to read that easily from day one.

Hey, what can I say, I’m still a romantic at heart, and I trust too much.
I didn’t realize I was up against a real player with this sweet one, lol.

You’re right though, I was thinking with the little head too much with this one.

 

[dmarts]

Stage 1:
Curiosity -> What the fuck, I'm bored, I'll try it out
- oh my god what if I caught something?

Stage 2:
Overcoming fear -> 6 months later
- I don't think I caught anything the first time, it was so easy, I'll go back once

Stage 3:
Jumping right in -> You've probably caught all kinds o herpes and HPV and are now going once a month ($100-$250 per month)
- ahhh, I'm only spending $100-250 a month it's manageable...it's a hobby

Stage 4:
Continued escalation -> You're now going multiple times a month ($300-$800 per month)
- ok, i'm spending way too much money on this but I have to try out that other chick, and do a duo, and see 3 different women in a row, and do a couple of hours with my favourite

Stage 5:
I can't get my fix aka "chasing the dragon" -> You're now going multiple times a week ($1000+ per month)
- Wow, you're spending way too much on a "hobby", this ain't model airplanes, but i have to do a blonde, and a blonde with a blonde Vietnamese girl from Thailand with an indian and a mexican stripper dancing in one corner while a black chick is watching and masturbating in the other corner, and it isn't even satisfying anymore and i'm doing shit i thought i would never do

Stage 6:
Detoxing Stage A -> (fast forward 3 - 3.5 years from initial visit) this is nuts
- you're down to once a month because you realized it was out of hand

Stage 7:
Detoxing Stage B -> massage sabotage
- you've gone twice in the last 4.5 months, you've visited people you know will leave you underwhelmed so you don't want to come back, you try to do a walk-in when you know you haven't got the slightest chance of getting a walk-in appointment with someone, and you need to stop reading this fucking forum and visiting Twitter and spa websites