Chat Can you trust spa girls...

[Lalallala]

Maybe you're right, it is a 'bucket list' kinda thing...

Funny thing is I've never even been to the hotel with my friend before (although I've joked with her about it). In fact, tomorrow's lunch is the first time I'm seeing her outside the spa so that's why I was surprised she brought up the hotel lol...

What did you do yesterday that was so mind blowing?

Uuh I can’t say what I did last night.

As for the bucket list thing.. I guess it wasn’t 25 years ago. 2003, July. At the old Sheraton four points on the lakeshore by Sunnyside beach. The girl I was dating (this lovely 4’9” Laotian girl - Hmong I believe) and I were just chilling at the hotel after dinner. Her friends were coming over and bringing us some mj, and the plan was to have stoner sex with the gf. She was super experimental and her friends were older and divorced and definitely more liberated. The were in their 30s and we were in our late 20s. So the girls were slowly getting stoned and instead of the two friends leaving, they asked to stay and join. I mean they knew what we were up to. I could barely handle my gf at the time and no idea how adding two of her best friends to the mix would mess things up. I chickened out. The two friends went at each other in the room while I took my gf to the balcony and pounded her in full view of lakeshore traffic

When we went back in, the two friends were already asleep. Dammit, should have gone back in sooner. Haven’t had an organic opportunity like that since.

Eta: I still carry the pic of that girl in my wallet .. sigh.

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

Uuh I can’t say what I did last night.

As for the bucket list thing.. I guess it wasn’t 25 years ago. 2003, July. At the old Sheraton four points on the lakeshore by Sunnyside beach. The girl I was dating (this lovely 4’9” Laotian girl - Hmong I believe) and I were just chilling at the hotel after dinner. Her friends were coming over and bringing us some mj, and the plan was to have stoner sex with the gf. She was super experimental and her friends were older and divorced and definitely more liberated. The were in their 30s and we were in our late 20s. So the girls were slowly getting stoned and instead of the two friends leaving, they asked to stay and join. I mean they knew what we were up to. I could barely handle my gf at the time and no idea how adding two of her best friends to the mix would mess things up. I chickened out. The two friends went at each other in the room while I took my gf to the balcony and pounded her in full view of lakeshore traffic

When we went back in, the two friends were already asleep. Dammit, should have gone back in sooner. Haven’t had an organic opportunity like that since.

Eta: I still carry the pic of that girl in my wallet .. sigh.

Picture in the wallet? Pretty retro

 

[Lalallala]

Picture in the wallet? Pretty retro

2002 bro!!

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

2002 bro!!

They used to sell wallets with a generic picture in it that you’d replace with one of your own

 

[Lalallala]

They used to sell wallets with a generic picture in it that you’d replace with one of your own

lol one of my friends has a condo that he takes his women to - I guess he doesn’t want to take them to his house. The picture frames still have the stock photos in them

 

[eyeswideshut]

What is life without hope? After some reflection and subsequent introspection about the failed relationship and what is important to me, I feel that I can make a better decision next time. I guess history will tell, won’t it? Let’s hope I don’t repeat the same mistakes as the past.

One thing alot of people do when getting out of a bad relationship is to only focus on someone new who doesn't have the bad traits of there ex. They sometimes forget about the good qualities that person had. Try not to make that mistake or you might find yourself going down the same path but for different reasons

Like I said I'm a bit surprised you want to go at it another time, but good luck to you

 

[eyeswideshut]

I didn’t mean to be taken care of. It was more of a joke but having someone that can take care of themselves and have some assets can save me from losing mine.

Sorry I knew you were joking but my response was more serious than I intended. Probably due to lack of sleep

 

[Lalallala]

One thing alot of people do when getting out of a bad relationship is to only focus on someone new who doesn't have the bad traits of there ex. They sometimes forget about the good qualities that person had. Try not to make that mistake or you might find yourself going down the same path but for different reasons

Like I said I'm a bit surprised you want to go at it another time, but good luck to you

Oh I am well aware of the good qualities. And I didn’t say it was entirely my ex’s fault. I don’t think I blamed her anywhere, did I? There’s a lot of good things in a relationship that you don’t get from one or two hour visits.

 

[OG_funguy]

Oh I am well aware of the good qualities. And I didn’t say it was entirely my ex’s fault. I don’t think I blamed her anywhere, did I? There’s a lot of good things in a relationship that you don’t get from one or two hour visits.

And sometimes there are things you get in a one or two hour visit that you don't get in a good relationship...

 

[Lalallala]

And sometimes there are things you get in a one or two hour visit that you don't get in a good relationship...

Hahahahaha this is true. But one of the things I will work on in the next relationship is to make sure these things can be addressed.

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

Hahahahaha this is true. But one of the things I will work on in the next relationship is to make sure these things can be addressed.

Ideally she being the one wanting to address these items…

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

Ideally she being the one wanting to address these items…

Then again, there’s no guarantee the desire for those “items” don’t dwindle in the months ahead leading to drudgery!
Safest and most practical solution is to find a kind hearted nice person and keep your “items” addressed and or supplemented elsewhere in moderation of course. JMHO

 

[LoveSpaGirls]

So much for the trusting spa girl idea!

We have descended into a relationship advice column

 

[Ambler]

Then again, there’s no guarantee the desire for those “items” don’t dwindle in the months ahead leading to drudgery!
Safest and most practical solution is to find a kind hearted nice person and keep your “items” addressed and or supplemented elsewhere in moderation of course. JMHO

Kind hearted, nice, honest, and genuine. The only sin is ingratitude.

 

[Ambler]

So much for the trusting spa girl idea!

We have descended into a relationship advice column

I enjoy the quality of the advice, and genuine sharing exhibited by the best posts on this thread. Some of this is possible outside the hobby with friends, but not always or usually for most of us.

Thoughtful and respectful discourse is one of the most satisfying expressions of being human; and in this case found in a forum particularly for men who partake of the joy the women of this industry share with us.

 

[LoveSpaGirls]

Appreciate where you are coming from but this started off as a thread about trusting MPAs.

You could always start a thread about relationship advice if you are so inclined my friend...

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

Appreciate where you are coming from but this started off as a thread about trusting MPAs.

You could always start a thread about relationship advice if you are so inclined my friend...

Most conversations segue to other related and eventually unrelated topics

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

Most conversations segue to other related and eventually unrelated topics

Especially when the original topic gets exhausted

 

[bIttersweat]

Hahahahaha this is true. But one of the things I will work on in the next relationship is to make sure these things can be addressed.

There is something so spectacularly fun about transactional relationships. Sex always comes down to money but the no strings attached fun at a spa is hard to beat.

 

[Lalallala]

There is something so spectacularly fun about transactional relationships. Sex always comes down to money but the no strings attached fun at a spa is hard to beat.

Yeah, ngl sometimes that’s fun. So there’s this girl I had seen a few times. Aside from the first time, we have been physically intimate now to the point where we don’t even put up the facade of a massage. I don’t think I could ask her for one anymore. The last time though things got super emotionally intimate. Got details of her suicide attempts, etc. gah.. so yeah sometimes no strings is great but do it too many times with the same girl and someone is gonna get attached.

Eta: and to be honest, it feels weird giving her cash after she shared such intimate information…