How do you guys go back to normal sex?

[jayhugh]

100% agree, in my case the MPA that I see once a month will do something that The One won’t do anymore

like? wana share?

 

[Young heart]

Don't think you can quit. Trust me you only take a break...

I have my eye on a beautiful woman and if I get her, I know I'm done hobbying because I will absolutely cherish and spoil her...

Im older, wiser and know exactly what I want!!!

 

[Deleted member 67438]

Whats nofap?

 

[felixami]

Whats nofap?

no masterbating

 

[Pay2Play]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

If you need to ask this question on a sex forum then you are not much of a man. Get a grip on life you fucking dummy.

 

[felixami]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

I think you are talking about two completely different things here. One is about fantasy with no obligations and the second is about a real life relationship requiring hard work.
So you met a special lady. So? Why do you have to quit? Why do you think you have to quit?
A relationship is no fantasy. You are committing to one person for life? You are with her for more than just the sex. Right?

 

[xtc27]

... I thot would b hard going back to my lil RMT HJ after having amazing sex @ holistic spa... but xtc27-jr = happy w quiet lil handy... thot I might not even get hard... no probs...

... most dudes her confirm dfk gonna work almost every time... but if yer wife don't kiss much... well, I guess that why u hobby, casting u no shade...

... Im mostly really amazed @ my cock, seems 2 like sex even when I'm not so sure...

 

[daty869]

... I thot would b hard going back to my lil RMT HJ after having amazing sex @ holistic spa... but xtc27-jr = happy w quiet lil handy... thot I might not even get hard... no probs...

... most dudes her confirm dfk gonna work almost every time... but if yer wife don't kiss much... well, I guess that why u hobby, casting u no shade...

... Im mostly really amazed @ my cock, seems 2 like sex even when I'm not so sure...

This is quite interesting ending above, it is quite amazing how the touch of a different hand (or other other part or a different lady) can arouse when you think that you’re going to be too tired or just going to enjoy a massage. Some of my best Finishes have “come” from older, less attractive, and yes less skinny attendants. Not to say that young good looking ladies with big breasts and shaved … (you get the picture) aren’t tasty and attractive….. Just realized how far from original post we are here……anyway, I’ve said my peace before and will try to contain myself like the original question asked. I agree that once you have a taste of the hobby, you can only stop once, unfortunately that will happen to all of us one day. Enjoy in moderation while you can.

 

[Young heart]

Ive been doing this for well over 25 years....

When I am in a relationship, im broken and needed at least 5 rounds of therapy, sex addicts anonymous, sex therapist etc etc.....clearly a broken human being.....funny since im single and living life to the fullest, im not broken anymore!! No therapy ( significant others make you feel broken)

Men are wired differently and SO don't understand that....

Having said this, I know at age 60 but look and feel 40, that if I get that DDG woman I am after.....i will stop this and cherish her and spoil her....my decision, not because I am a broken man....lol....

 

[Dongo]

There is an assumption in the majority of posts in this thread that monogamy is the preferred “ natural” state of mind that guides our “ moral” compass.
I take the position of some posters, that testosterone seeks neutralization through banal, primal satisfaction, period.
Anything else is an unnatural situation, coerced denial of urges.
We aren’t as advanced as we would like to think ! We are driven by the same primal wiring that got the human species where it is, right or wrong, a desired state or forced denial.
I’m sure there will be many who see things differently, however I think it is them who debate the issue from a false, pious, societally forced platform.

 

[luvdafurburger]

There is an assumption in the majority of posts in this thread that monogamy is the preferred “ natural” state of mind that guides our “ moral” compass.
I take the position of some posters, that testosterone seeks neutralization through banal, primal satisfaction, period.
Anything else is an unnatural situation, coerced denial of urges.
We aren’t as advanced as we would like to think ! We are driven by the same primal wiring that got the human species where it is, right or wrong, a desired state or forced denial.
I’m sure there will be many who see things differently, however I think it is them who debate the issue from a false, pious, societally forced platform.

Absolutely nailed it Dongo.
I hobbied fairly young and then married. For years I did what society "approved" of: faithful husband putting my wife first but our sex life pretty much disintegrated to eventually a sexless marriage and then to a miserable one. But still I foolishly remained optimistic things would get better. They didn't. But I stayed away from hobbying. White knuckleing it.
I began to question why I struggled to remain "faithful" and came to realize that I wasn't a bad person to have desires. They don't turn off when there's a ring on your finger. Men and women simply are hard wired differently. For example if your friend had a few beers at a strip club and got a lap dance and felt up some tits, we wouldn't blink, but pretty much every girl would say he's a "cheater" or "cad" or at best disapprove. But it doesn't mean he loves his SO less, it is meaningless to him.
"Faithful" is a concept originating from the State, church, and women because serves their purpose best. It just doesn't serve men's very well.
A guy can love a SO and hobby. It doesn't mean he loves her less. It's just a physical need that we can keep in perspective. Of course women would disagree. But it isn't Hollywood and we only go around once so I'm not going to suffer for no purpose other than to appease institutional traditions from institutions I don't necessarily agree with or even believe in.
I have nothing against those that still believe in Hollywood...I'm just not there anymore.

 

[xtc27]

Absolutely nailed it Dongo.
I hobbied fairly young and then married. For years I did what society "approved" of: faithful husband putting my wife first but our sex life pretty much disintegrated to eventually a sexless marriage and then to a miserable one. But still I foolishly remained optimistic things would get better. They didn't. But I stayed away from hobbying. White knuckleing it.
I began to question why I struggled to remain "faithful" and came to realize that I wasn't a bad person to have desires. They don't turn off when there's a ring on your finger. Men and women simply are hard wired differently. For example if your friend had a few beers at a strip club and got a lap dance and felt up some tits, we wouldn't blink, but pretty much every girl would say he's a "cheater" or "cad" or at best disapprove. But it doesn't mean he loves his SO less, it is meaningless to him.
"Faithful" is a concept originating from the State, church, and women because serves their purpose best. It just doesn't serve men's very well.
A guy can love a SO and hobby. It doesn't mean he loves her less. It's just a physical need that we can keep in perspective. Of course women would disagree. But it isn't Hollywood and we only go around once so I'm not going to suffer for no purpose other than to appease institutional traditions from institutions I don't necessarily agree with or even believe in.
I have nothing against those that still believe in Hollywood...I'm just not there anymore.

Mistresses threaten marriages… unlike hobbying… we’re not running off w these girls…cheaper than sports, esp buying tx 2 games

 

[asiabuffet]

Thanks for all the sincere advice and replies. Good advice and I admit I fall into a lot of the comments about being addicted, messed up, personal life is not sorted out, etc. I have made a commitment to improve and cut down or quit hobbying. Not because it is wrong by societies view, but because I truly believe it has fucked up my normal view of women. Like porn messing up your view on normal sex. What's normal? Cant even answer that. But its not me thats for sure. Unless you guys tell me otherwise. But I guess one of my main questions is How do you get back to normal sex seeing the things you guys have and experienced the things you have from MPs? Is your personal sex life boring or exciting? Or you just solider through it to satisfy your SO? I guess the main question is how do you make love to your SO like she's the only one in the world for you? Is it all an act? Thanks for all the advice.

 

[xtc27]

Thanks for all the sincere advice and replies. Good advice and I admit I fall into a lot of the comments about being addicted, messed up, personal life is not sorted out, etc. I have made a commitment to improve and cut down or quit hobbying. Not because it is wrong by societies view, but because I truly believe it has fucked up my normal view of women. Like porn messing up your view on normal sex. What's normal? Cant even answer that. But its not me thats for sure. Unless you guys tell me otherwise. But I guess one of my main questions is How do you get back to normal sex seeing the things you guys have and experienced the things you have from MPs? Is your personal sex life boring or exciting? Or you just solider through it to satisfy your SO? I guess the main question is how do you make love to your SO like she's the only one in the world for you? Is it all an act? Thanks for all the advice.

Me2… quittng 4 sure… most of us planning 2 quit…

Just 1 or 2 more girls… oh yeah, Crystal one more time, damn, nvr no what shes gonna do… And Lily! Damn… mebbe Lucy once more… and Mei! Right…

Then Im done! 4 sure…

 

[Deleted member 92532]

If you’ve found the one. Good for you. Get off this site and try to stay with her. I thought I found the one several times and I was wrong with all of them. One I stayed with for a very long time and things just weren’t as good as the beginning.

Whether yours is the one for you or not, if things go south later, hobbying should still be around. If you want to try and make it work with her, I’d say just stay off this site. Unless she’s super cool with you seeing others (some couples are ok with this), then you’re gonna want to stick to societal norms and not “cheat”.

I commend the effort though and hope for the best for you.

 

[cupcrazy]

how would you feel if your significant one cheat on your by banging other dudes?

overcoming Sex addiction is somewhat like quit smoking. If you want to say i will stop watching porn or go to spa starting this moment, it won't work. You have to do it gradually. make reasonable target. Lets say you go to spa 5 times a month, you start will with going to a spa 4 times a month for 2 months then 3 times a month for the next two and so on.

Going to a therapy is not a bad idea. in fact your therapist can show you the way.

 

[Deleted member 88306]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

You will be back, sex will probably die after marriage.

 

[cupcrazy]

You will be back, sex will probably die after marriage.

sex will die after menopause or having children.

 

[Deleted member 88306]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

Protect your assets bud, go to a lawyer and setup a trust to protect your stuff.

 

[Deleted member 88306]

sex will die after menopause or having children.

I had sex with a 49-year-old when i was 32. We had sex every day although she wasn't in the mood. Once I started masturbating she got all excited. lol